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  • Three Levels of Dominance

    Mastering the Balance Between Taking, Leading, and Deep Presence

    By Paul Meyers • 7 min read • ENGLISH

  • Introducing SPNKD's Couples’ Roadmap to Erotic Growth

    This framework is more than a set of steps—it’s an invitation to embrace the essence of your relationship and unlock new dimensions of intimacy.

    By Paul Meyers • 5 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Art of Slow Kink: Surrendering to the Waves of Pleasure

    In a world that rushes, true pleasure is found in the pause.

    By Paul Meyers • 5 min read • ENGLISH

  • Don’t Praise Your Dom Into a Corner: The Secret to Keeping Them Sharp

    The Growth Mindset in Dominance: How Submissives Can Support Their Dominant’s Evolution.

    By Paul Meyers • 8 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Dance of Power: How a Masochist’s Smile Changed My Sadism

    A Journey of Connection, Ego, and Humility

    By Paul Meyers • 6 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Secret to Better BDSM? Slowing Down and Talking First

    The RBDSM+A Approach to Consent and Connection

    By Paul Meyers• 7 min read • ENGLISH

  • Finding My Way Through Dominance: A Journey of Trial and Error

    Different types of Masculine Dominance

    By Paul Meyers• 5 min read • ENGLISH

  • Learning The Ropes: A Bondage Basic

    Tips and resources to start your Kinbaku journey

    By Tess Dagger • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Playing With Fire and Ice

    The full range of temperature play, how to do it, and what to look out for

    By Ena Dahl • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Aftercare Is a Bridge Back to Reality

    All You Need To Know About BDSM Aftercare

    By Tess Dagger • 8 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Higher You Fly, The Harder You Drop?

    Riggers and rope models share what Shibari means to them

    By Ena Dahl • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Learning The Ropes: A Bondage Basic

    Tips and resources to start your Kinbaku journey

    By Tess Dagger • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Why We Love Rope

    Riggers and rope models share what Shibari means to them

    By Ena Dahl • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Tie Me Up to Set Me Free

    How I experience being bound and suspended in ropes

    By Ena Dahl • 7 min read • ENGLISH

  • Why, as a Kinkster, I Married Vanilla

    When masochistic submissive and straight-and-narrow vanilla collide

    By Tess Dagger • 5 min read • ENGLISH

  • BDSM Safety 101 — A Primer

    The bare-bones basics for navigating your first scene safely, plus some peeks at considerations for more advanced play

    By Tess Dagger • 11 min read • ENGLISH

  • Is Submission an Excuse to Be Lazy in Bed?

    The active role of the ‘passive’ part in a D/s dynamic

    By Ena Dahl • 6 min read • ENGLISH

  • How To Find The 'Perfect' Play Partner?

    How, where, and what to look for – as well as a few things to watch out for

    By Ena Dahl • 8 min read • ENGLISH

  • How Can We Keep Kink-Dynamics Alive In Steady Relationships?

    How to maintain the mystery and move from ‘real-life’ to ‘power-play’, and back again.

    By Ena Dahl • 11 min read • ENGLISH

  • An Emotional Exploration of Sadism & Masochism

    A look into the realm of pain and the lessons we learn through BDSM exchanges

    By Tess Dagger • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Take My Breath Away

    Edge-play: Choking and breath play in BDSM

    By Ena Dahl • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • Surprising Ways BDSM Can Improve Everyday Life

    An exploration into kink and the life skills we can learn there

    By Tess Dagger • 11 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Relativity of Pain

    Facts about this rather prickly fetish, and why it may be more approachable than you think.

    By Tess Dagger • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • How to Get What You Want From Scene Negotiation

    Turn the kinky pre-discussion into a successful play session

    By Tess Dagger • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • How to Outsmart Your Dom

    Ten things (not) to say to drive your top up the wall

    By Ena Dahl • 2 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Ins and Outs of Needle Play

    Facts about this rather prickly fetish, and why it may be more approachable than you think.

    By Tess Dagger • 9 min read • ENGLISH

  • The Ego, Shame & BDSM

    Can humiliation lead to healthier egos and better mental health?

    By Ena Dahl • 7 min read

  • Your Pain, My Pleasure

    Discovering the alluring links between pleasure and pain.

    By Ena Dahl • 10 min read • ENGLISH