About

Every last Wednesday of the month, the loft opens for something more relaxed: a sober salon where mingling, playing, and observing sit side by side. Rope play, creative scenes, BDSM dynamics: the loft is open to all of it. Meet up with friends or make new ones; this space is for socializing, playing, and relaxing. Grab a drink, find a corner, talk to someone new, play with your partner, or watch. There’s no set path for the evening, you decide how close you get. The evening is capped at 26 people.

Included in the ticket price is drinks, snacks a fully equipped playroom. Towels/latex gloves available upon request. phones stay in bags and on silent,

House rules:

• No penetration
• No blood play
• No scat play

Clear communication. Enthusiastic consent. Mutual respect.

Met someone new and want to play?

Meeting someone during the evening and feeling the pull to play is part of what this salon is for. We recommend meeting a person a few times before playing together, so you can gauge if they can name their boundaries clearly. Do they know their own triggers? Are you comfortable with them being semi-responsible for your wellbeing during a scene, and them with you? 

But If the vibe is there and you’re keen to play, work through these steps first:

Receiver / bottom / sub:

• Define your boundaries & name any physical injuries or specificities the giver needs to know
• Know your own risk profile and possible triggers, and how you’ll process them yourself and together if they come up
• Check the giver’s state of awareness: under the influence, unwell, on edge? If so, contact Eveline
• Define your check-in signals for during the scene
• Define the goal of the scene
• Define a stop word
• Define your aftercare 

Giver / top / dom:

• Define your boundaries, and name any specificities the receiver needs to know
• Know your own risk profile, and listen closely to the receiver’s: ask if you’re unsure
• Check that the receiver is acting from full awareness and integrity, not people-pleasing; the clearest tell is someone claiming they have no limits at all
• Watch for nervous-system overload: fawn, freeze, flight, fight. Stop the scene immediately if it appears. If so, alert Eveline
• Stay attentive to the receiver’s physical wellbeing throughout
• Define the goal of the scene
• Define check-in signals for during the scene
• Define a stop word
• Define your aftercare

We assume anyone playing has read the above and knows how to apply it.

Who is this for?

Individuals & couples welcome; a low-threshold way to meet likeminded people and get to know the SPNKD loft. All genders, sexualities, bodies, and constellations belong here.

This is a self-governing evening. Come consent-aware: know your own boundaries, give and receive a “no” without shame, and take responsibility for when to engage, pause, or ask for support from Eveline or a SPNKD team member.

Discover

The loft: A bathroom that doubles as a changing room, several cozy corners to settle into, and a full toolrack (ropes, impact implements, a set of restraints) available to use. Bring your own tools if you’d rather work with your own. Four suspension points, a bondage daybed, and a wet zone round out the loft. Towels are available on request.

Timings:

• Arrival: doors open at 18u30, doors close at 19u
• Salon: 18u30 to 23u
• Last call: a bell rings at 22u30, marking 30 minutes to close
• Close: 23u

What’s not allowed: Acts of penetration; oral, vaginal, anal, or otherwise are not part of this evening’s structure.. Eveline will step in if she notices this taking place. We encourage creative play that steers away from the escalator to orgasm; the loft is a playground, enjoy it! Blood play and scat are also not allowed. The salon is for socializing, playing, and relaxing.

How this differs from a Private Play Evening: Private Play Evenings are reserved for established couples or duos with a semi-established BDSM dynamic, built on trust, and versed in playing consciously (consent, boundaries, risk profiles). The Soft Social Salon is open to individuals and couples alike, sober, and built equally around mingling and play, not play alone.

Your Host: Eveline

General manager of SPNKD and long-standing community member, Eveline hosts the evening alongside a SPNKD team member. She’s passionate about creating containers for exploration and adult play, and felt there was a gap: real-life spaces that actually encourage community. In a world quick to trade real connection for parasocial substitutes, Eveline built this evening as its counterpoint, a comfortable, soft setting where adult play and in-person community are both welcome, and neither has to explain itself. 

She won’t be playing tonight; she’s there to keep the evening running and to answer anything about the SPNKD universe. She’ll keep an eye and an ear on the room, but consent stays your responsibility, not hers to police.

Dresscode

Relaxed and the dress code reflects it: leave your shoes at the door and come as you are. Room to change is available if needed. Nudity is welcome.

FAQ

Is there a changing room?

Yes. You can change in the bathroom.

Is there parking nearby?

Yes. Paid parking PIDPA is available within an 8-minute walk of the venue.

Why is this a sober event?

To maintain a space of conscious, clear, and connected play, this event is entirely sober No alcohol or recreational substances are permitted before or during the night. This ensures that consent, boundaries, and communication remain fully present and intentional for everyone involved.

Can we arrive after the doors close at 18u30?

No; to preserve the intimacy and container of the evening, doors will close promptly at 19u. If you are running late due to traffic or public transport please alert the SPNKD Team via email. info@spnkd.com

What does ‘no penetration’ mean in practice?

This rule means that while sensual and intimate touch is welcome (always with consent), acts of penetration; oral, vaginal, anal, or otherwise are not part of this evening’s structure. This boundary ensures a shared sense of safety and allows for creative, conscious, and playful connection beyond conventional scripts.

Do I need experience to attend?

No. Experience isn’t required; what matters most is clear communication, shared consent, and an attuned, aware approach to play

Can we ask questions before the event?

Of course. For any last-minute questions, email us at eveline@spnkd.com and Eveline will respond promptly.

Can I take photos?

Photography will be discreet and consent-based. Guests are welcome to take personal photos provided others are not captured without explicit permission.

Is this a swingers event?

No. The intention is not group sex, escalation, or erotic exhibitionism. Cross-play is welcome only when mutual, clearly communicated, and aligned with your dynamic. The focus is on conscious kink, intimate exploration, and shared erotic presence, not swapping. 

Who can attend?

This party is only 21+. This event is open to singles and couples of all genders, sexualities, and bodies.

What type of space is this?

This is a kink- and sex-positive environment where desire, intimacy, and erotic exploration are welcomed with respect and awareness. All play must be fully consensual and be communicated clearly. Guests are expected to uphold a culture of consent, autonomy, and mutual care throughout the night.

I didn’t get my confirmation email. What should I do?

Please check your spam folder, the confirmation includes the address and event details.