Couple Workshop - Give or Take? Exploration on Desire & Trust

About

What does it truly mean to give and what does it mean to take?

This workshop is for those who wish to deepen intimacy and explore desires with curiosity, mutual care, and a sense of play. Through playful embodied exercises, we will investigate how desire moves between us: how it is offered, received, claimed, resisted, and sometimes withheld.

Dare to meet your own desires 

Using a simple and accessible framework inspired by the Wheel of Consent, we’ll look at the different qualities of giving and taking, not as fixed roles, but as fluid experiences that can shift from moment to moment. You’ll be invited to notice what genuinely feels nourishing, what feels performative or habitual, and where your own edges lie.

What you will explore

• Why receiving pleasure can feel so vulnerable, and what holds us back
• The often-overlooked pleasure of taking
• The difference between surrender and tolerating
• How to communicate our desires and boundaries with clarity and ease
• Through guided exercises, reflection, and playful interaction, you’ll gain practical tools for expressing your desires and boundaries with greater confidence and nuance. 

The focus is on cultivating presence, trust, and emotional precision, the foundations of truly satisfying play! 

The Experts:

Alexander Ma

Alexander Ma is a researcher, philosopher, and kink educator exploring presence, impact and power through consensual BDSM practices. His work is informed by his background in Japanese martial arts (Aikido) and his studies in Kinbaku. He holds a PhD and is the founder and editor-in-chief of Kinbaku Society of Berlin magazine.

Natasha NawaTaNeko

Natasha NawaTaNeko is a kink educator and somatic practitioner exploring embodiment, surrender, and intimacy through rope and BDSM. She is the author of Somatics for Rope Bottoms and teaches internationally, focusing on awareness, consent, and polarity in intimate relationships.

Dresscode

For the workshop it is best to wear something comfortable. The focus during the workshop is on transferring information and ‘learning’ techniques. Please note, this is not an erotic workshop! The clothes stay on.

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FAQ

What should we wear?

For the workshop it is best to wear something light and comfortable.

Is this workshop suitable for complete beginners?

Yes. This class is designed for beginners with no previous experience. All you need is openness, clear communication with your partner, and a willingness to learn.

Is there a changing room?

Yes. You can change in one of the two bathrooms or in a designated changing room next to the workshop space.

Is there parking nearby?

Yes, there’s paid street parking directly outside and the smaller crossing streets nearby. Finding available spots might take some time, so please arrive in good time if you’re coming by car. The venue is easily accessible via Ubahns U8 to Schönleinstraße (5 minute walk) or U7 to Südstern (10 minute walk) or with the M41 Bus to Graefestraße.

Can we ask questions before the event?

Of course. For any last-minute questions, email us at ena@spnkd.com and our team will respond promptly.