{"id":1341,"date":"2021-04-08T11:21:02","date_gmt":"2021-04-08T11:21:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spnkd.com\/how-to-outsmart-your-dom\/"},"modified":"2021-08-30T15:51:33","modified_gmt":"2021-08-30T15:51:33","slug":"how-to-outsmart-your-dom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spnkd.com\/fr\/how-to-outsmart-your-dom\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Outsmart Your Dom"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p id=\"4122\">Nothing triggers and gets your (benign, sexual-) sadist or dominant going like small acts of defiance; snarky comments, ripe with brattiness. After thorough&nbsp;<em>research<\/em>, I\u2019ve compiled the following list of all the things to&nbsp;<em>not<\/em>\u2014 under any circumstance \u2014 say to your sadistic partner during play. Their likely reactions are listed below.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I don\u2019t bruise&nbsp;easily\u2026<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>We\u2019ll see about that\u2026<\/em>(Makes damn sure you bruise a lot)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I never scream!<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>That was before you met me!&nbsp;<\/em>(You will scream)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">I bet you can\u2019t make me cry\u2026<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Challenge accepted!<\/em>&nbsp;(Prepare to weep)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Try me! (Said with a cocky smirk)<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Oh, I will\u2026&nbsp;<\/em>(Yep, they certainly will)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Oh no, not the cane!&nbsp;(Insert whatever else is in their hand)<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Double cane it is!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Oh no, I\u2019m soooo scared\u2026&nbsp;(Add a tinge of sarcasm)<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>You\u2019ve seen nothing yet.&nbsp;<\/em>(They\u2019ll show you)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ouch, that hurts!<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>You think that hurts, wait until you see this\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">That barely hurt&#8230;<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Wait, what?<\/em>&nbsp;(Steps up their game even further)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">\u2026&nbsp;(Make no sound at all and smile defyingly back at them)<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2026 (The lack of reaction drives them mad)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Wait, was that it?<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Hah, that was just the beginning\u2026&nbsp;<\/em>(Enter level 2)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>When I said to<em>&nbsp;never&nbsp;<\/em>say these things, there is, of course,&nbsp;<em>one<\/em>&nbsp;exception; if you happen to be a&nbsp;<em>filthy&nbsp;<\/em>little masochist brat. In that case, please&nbsp;<em>do<\/em>&nbsp;say all of the things\u2014while laughing, and throwing pillows at them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Disclaimer: In all seriousness, if you ever do want your dominant and\/or sadist partner to stop, please use your safe word like the smart, responsible adult you are!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Have fun and play safe!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote is-style-default\"><blockquote><p>Sincerely,<\/p><p>Ena Dahl | Writer for SPNKD<\/p><cite>Multidimensional creatrix &amp; muse <br>seeking to unite sexuality &amp; spirituality, <br>instigate alchemical healing &amp; ignite the wild (wo)man<strong> <\/strong><br><a href=\"https:\/\/www.enadahl.com\/\">enadahl.com<\/a><\/cite><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nothing triggers and gets your (benign, sexual-) sadist or dominant going like small acts of defiance; snarky comments, ripe with brattiness. After thorough&nbsp;research, I\u2019ve compiled the following list of all the things to&nbsp;not\u2014 under any circumstance \u2014 say to your sadistic partner during play. Their likely reactions are listed below. 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